I was invited to a wedding that got postponed due to the COVID pandemic. Should I wait until the new date to send a gift? Do I have to send a gift for both the original date and the new date?
Wedding gift etiquette has always been a tricky subject, but the COVID pandemic has made things even more complicated. COVID has complicated the already murky waters of wedding gift etiquette. As couples postpone their weddings or opt for smaller events like minimonies, guests are likely wondering what exactly to do about gifts.
Here's everything a guest needs to know about gift giving if the event has been postponed or canceled.
1. Do I have to send a gift for a virtual wedding?
If you’re attending a virtual wedding, you should indeed send a gift to the engaged couple to show your support. Gifts, in this case are given as a symbol of your love and friendship, and to help the couple start their new life together. Wedding gifts are sometimes viewed as an exchange between couple and guest. And that applies whether the couple is hosting an in-person wedding or a Zoom ceremony.
2. I was invited to a small wedding, but decided not to attend. Do I still need to send a gift?
Yes, it’s still a good idea—especially if you’re close with the couple as wedding gift etiquette dictates that while you don’t have to give a gift if you’re not attending a wedding.
3. The wedding has cancelled and haven’t announced if they’re rescheduling. Do I have to send a gift?
We still recommend sending the couple a gift timed to their original wedding date. Because the couple is likely trying to figure out their next move. They’ll certainly appreciate the gesture as they try to put new plans in motion.
4. How much should I spend on a gift if I’m not attending?
If you’re very close with the couple, you might consider spending what you normally would, even if you won’t be present for the nuptials. Your best bet is to take a look at the couple’s wedding registry and select a gift at a price point you’re comfortable with.
A note, you do not have to purchase another gift for the postponed wedding date, but giving a handwritten card when that time comes is certainly a thoughtful gesture. You only need to purchase one gift, and sending it around the time of their original wedding date. Doing so gives the couple something to celebrate during what’s sure to be an emotional time, and it will also help the engaged pair start their life together when they originally planned.